With Patrick Mosher
We face an unprecedented time in human history. EVERY person on the planet is impacted by the current viral outbreak.
You have a choice: A) Succumb to fear, put up our guards, hoard our resources and create social isolation;
OR; B) Take this time to reflect how to use this amazing opportunity to re-imagine how we live and connect.
As healers and leaders, I choose B!!
How 'bout you? What messages are you listening to? What messages are you sending?
I cried with joy when a friend of mine sent this message:
The immediate message is to SLOW DOWN and start taking care – of yourselves, of your bodies, of each other, of the people and other living beings who are being ground up and spit out of our systems. "You thought it was impossible to make sudden about-face. You said, 'we know we have to change everything in the next ten years, but we can't imagine how.' Here you are, brought to a grinding halt by something so tiny it's...
I went to an all-boys college prep high school. We were to assume leadership roles in government and industry. I'm proud of my education at this fine institution.
In my sophomore year, I took Civics taught by our football coach, Mr. Balaban. It was an afternoon class, right after lunch. I sat on the right side, about a third of the way back. That way, I could lean my head against the wall. It was an easy "A" class. Not a shining beacon of my education … except for one short impactful lesson. I guess it was related to civics and good citizenship. I can see his massive form as he delivered this character-building sentence:
"Men, it's better to be Outstanding than Standing Out."
Have you ever felt like you were just left standing there?
I thought of all the times I was the last one picked for teams on the playground. There I was, Standing Out. I thought of the parties in high school that I wasn't...
To prepare for an annual medical checkup, I needed to get a blood draw. I went down to the local clinic and got in line to check in -- 2 people ahead of me. The little waiting room was crowded with people.
A young man, wearing the local university's colors, burst through the door. Clearly in a hurry. Clearly agitated when he saw the line. When the person at the desk completed her check-in, he jumps past the three of us and DEMANDS the receptionist check him in.
"I'm sorry sir, but you'll have to wait in line."
Protected by the thick glass, she looks relieved. The interaction creates a stir in the waiting room as people peak over their books and magazines to gawk at the scene.
"Check me in … NOW!"
"I'm sorry sir, but your appointment isn't for another 30 minutes. You'll have to wait."
Frustrated and with a few profanities, he steps away from the desk and turns to walk away, past me.
This is THE moment. What would you...
What was the first one word that stopped you in your tracks?
With a loud NO, you learned to freeze and stop what you were doing. And it didn't take you long to invoke NO when you didn't want that spinach mush forced into your mouth!
You learned early that a single word has POWER.
There are other little words that are both subtle and powerful. I call these JOINER WORDS.
Let's start with, THEN.
If you took a logic or computer programming class, you learned the power of IF-THEN statements. They are statements of causality. If the conditions of phrase A are fulfilled and true, THEN phrase B can also be true.
"If you clean your room, THEN you can go outside and play."
"If you meet all the performance objectives, THEN you can get promoted."
"If you really love me, THEN…."
THEN is so powerful, you can drop it completely and merely imply its existence:
"If you jump off the cliff, [THEN] I'll reward you handsomely."
Did you sit down at your desk today and feel like you've experienced this same day before? Seems like life repeats itself over and over and over again. Groundhog Day!
Experience Life as Extraordinary!
The definition of Wisdom is the soundness of act or decision based on knowledge, experience and good judgment. To live wisely, then, means to deepen our life experiences. Sure, we can travel all over the world and have amazing experiences, but most of the time, we have the opportunity to experience our everyday life as extra-ordinary.
When I was in college, earning my chemical engineering degree, I was required to take a physical education elective. For most of us engineers, we thought it was an opportunity to take a break from calculus, organic chemistry and physics. Many of my friends took volleyball and martial arts. I decided to take … Ballet I.
As you might imagine, when I walked into Day 1, I quickly discovered, I was the only guy in the...
Growing up in Cincinnati, my family drove south for our summer vacations. Kentucky has many amazing state parks and wooded resorts. I fondly remember Cumberland Falls, Greenbo Lake, Carter Caves and Gwinn Island.
My favorite was Natural Bridge State Park.
I loved hiking to the Natural Bridge. It was both cool and scary. I remember walking to it and looking over an edge. YEOW! A long way down.
My Wisdom Story from Natural Bridge State Park, though, was in the gift shop. My Dad was a credit manager at a large retailer. Day after day, he saw people devastated by extending way beyond their means which made him pretty tight with his cash. At a very young age, I knew how much money was set aside for my Christmas gifts. I knew to ask for something within my gift budget.
So there we were in the gift shop and my Dad tells me, 'you can buy one thing in the gift shop.' WOWEE! What a surprise and it wasn't...
Stop signing your letters and emails with 'Best'!
Why? Reserve "Best" for exactly that …. your Best.
I'm working with Bo Eason, Storytelling Expert, Former NFL All Star, Broadway Playwright and Motivation Speaker. He works with people to be their Best. Working with him has made the word, Best, nearly sacred for me. Let's explore!
The definition of Best is 'the most excellent, outstanding or desirable.'
Best isn't just a high bar. It's the HIGHEST bar!
When you signed off your letter or email with 'Best,' did you go into your whole being, gather up all your best thoughts and best intentions? Thought about how you can best serve that person's life mission? And then write that word, 'Best'?
Oh, and what about using Best as an apology. That really grinds me. Someone hands you their work and say, "I did my Best." When you hear...
During our Ireland Wisdom Council this past September, we visited a Climate Change exhibit. At the end of our tour, four college students at the customer service desk were ready to answer any questions we had. As a Dad and Granddad, I naturally took the opportunity to ask them what they wanted to do with the rest of their lives.
The first three eagerly responded with aspirations of changing the world through social policy, animal welfare and natural resource conservation. When I got to the fourth young man, he looked down at the desk and in a low voice said, "I'm majoring in robotics. I guess I'm going to take jobs away from a lot of people."
My heart sank. Not because of his chosen profession, but because how he FELT about his chosen profession.
Perfect time to share some wisdom. Here's what I told him ….
Imagine four cavemen huddled around the fire after a long hard day of hunting and hauling big rocks for their home structure. One...
What we never had in the beginning was never ours
We enter the world with our spirit
And it's with our spirit, we depart
All else .... just borrowed
Even our time is unknown
What do you do with all these borrowed things and borrowed time?
Do you take them?
Use them up?
Leave this world with less than what it had before you arrived?
Do you treat these gifts of time and things preciously?
Adding your talent to them
Nurturing them like a beautiful prairie field
Oh, can’t you see Her beauty!
The grasses bending as the breeze cuts across the field
Billowy clouds create pillows of cool shadows
Clean fresh air fills your lungs with each breath
We are not natural takers
We’ve learned these ways
Time to unlearn
Time to return to being givers
Living in harmony
Giving back to each other
Giving back to the nature we call ... Her
It is TIME
And it's just...
What is the most sensual voice you've ever heard? YIKES! Where are we going with THAT question?
Vocalics is the study of all stimuli produced by the human voice that affect the auditory sense. It's not the words themselves, but how the words sound. Even pauses and silence are our instruments of vocalics.
Have you ever thought about how you sound? It's time to hike up your awareness and skills of vocalics because people hear the emotion in your words maybe even more than the meaning of the words themselves!
When we project our voice, we think of it as our voice. We may initialize it from within our body, but once it gets out there, it really isn't ours anymore. Once our voice leaves our bodies, three little ear bones vibrate in the other person's body.
How intimate is THAT?
Let's do our own experiment. Hum a really low note. Where do you feel that in your body? Now hum a really high...