With Patrick Mosher
As the waiter finished jotting down our order, he smiled and turned on his heal, punctuating our exchange with,
I’ve heard ‘No Problem’ thousands of times. It’s a common phrase used in our culture. And this time his response hit me kind of funny.
I turned the phrase over in my head, ‘No Problem.’
Did my order present a potential Problem? Did he need to assure me that our order was NOT a Problem for him? When did ordering from the menu at a restaurant become a Problem?
In a simple everyday exchange, ‘Problem’ was introduced out of nowhere!
Here’s the problem of ‘No Problem’…
The words NO and PROBLEM are both negatives.
And two negatives do not equal a positive.
I’m going to geek on you here just a bit with scientific proof.
You've got the task in your sights. It may be simple or hard, but what you need to do is clear. It doesn't get done. You move it to next day's or next week's To Do list. Still doesn't get done. You convince yourself you'll get tired of moving it to the next To Do list. And it still doesn't get done.
You may have a bunch of reasons why push it off, but this is a specific kind of pushed task. It's the kind where you've got a story in your head that you're not good at that task.
"Oh, I'm not good with numbers." Or, "I'm not good at technology."
It requires you to…..gulp….. LEARN something you don't want to! I call these: "I don't wanna" Competencies.
If you find yourself lacking a competency critical to your success and you lack the drive to learn it. You can make one of 3 choices.