With Patrick Mosher
Have you ever woken up and remembered your dream? I did this morning. My dream was both unnerving and satisfying. I don't remember a lot of the details and as the day unfolds, I'm forgetting more and more. It's a fascinating journey to record your dreams. You might want to keep a dream journal on your nightstand!
In this dream, I was in prison. I was talking to another inmate, consoling him. I remember clearly that I woke up with a sense of serenity. Almost happiness.
That's weird, right?
My Dream Coach often said remembering your dreams is a gift from your subconsciousness to your consciousness. We often remember images, but feelings are as important to remember from our dream as the images.
I could go all over the place with interpreting the prison part of my dream. Feelings of overwhelm, stress, not living fully into my purpose, daily pressures I put on myself to get stuff done,...
Paul's wife, Eva, called with bad news. Her mother's health took a turn for the worse. For the rest of the day, our conversation focused on family, parents, children and grandchildren. We talked about our responsibilities as good sons, as good parents.
My fondest memories of growing up in Chicago are watching Saturday night horse races with my grandmother and Aunt Marie. Dad built onto our house so they could stay with us. When my maternal grandmother, Mims, was ill, she stayed at our house in Cincinnati. In both instances, I was too young to understand how my mom and dad felt about their parents staying with us. One thing I know for sure, though, is that taking care of their parents was just what they did.
Too often I hear stories about old folks being a burden on society. When did we adopt a mindset that our parents are a burden? Gee, when you were 2 years old, do you think you were a self-sufficient being? ...
What happens next when something goes wrong in your organization?
Over my 30-year consulting career, I've seen PLENTY of miscues, difficulties, challenges and interruptions. They aren't exceptions. They are the RULE!
Leaders typically respond in one of two modes when things go awry:
I'd like to think I've led my teams with that Cool Confidence, but you'd have to ask my teams to validate. Certainly confidence comes from a leader's demeanor or mindset. I could talk about meditation, confidence and leadership traits. Instead, here is a pragmatic strategy to BUILD confidence BEFORE everything goes awry!
There's plenty of project management processes and tools on Contingency Plan and Planning. Look them up. Use them. All good stuff.
My approach is different. I'll begin with ….. a story
A Wisdom Story about...
When something goes wrong, we seek for reasons WHY it went wrong. It's only natural. In consulting, we called it Root Cause Analysis. Unfortunately, in our attention deficit world, we don't have the patience or the time to dig deep and find root causes. Instead we rely on easy.
Blame is Easy
Too easy. When someone cuts you off in traffic, you ASSUME the person is a jerk and that's what they ALWAYS do. Your blood boils. Maybe a few choice words spew out of your mouth. In that moment, when your attention is consumed, did you just cut someone else off?
A Wisdom Story of Driving Like a Lunatic
What was the root cause of that person cutting you off? Are they having a bad day? Are they late for their wedding? Did they come out of the womb, born a jerk with a capital "J"? You don't know. You can't know. So why assume the worst?
I remember an exact moment I was that guy. That speeding nut,...
Are you living every day to your fullest potential? If not, you're experiencing RESISTANCE.
Webster tells us the definition of Resistance is refusing to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument. Sure, that's a noble view of resistance, especially when resisting evil forces.
In this weekly broadcast, we're talking about Internal Resistance: the forces YOU put in place which prevent you from accomplishing your goals, your mission.
When I think of Internal Resistance, I lean towards the scientific definition:
The degree to which a substance or device opposes the flow of an electric current, causing energy dissipation.
Your Internal Resistance obstructs flow….and energy dissipates! Yep, THAT's the truth!
Ever feel like you are dissipating energy while making ZERO progress? Instead of opening that blank page and begin writing, you surf the internet for inspiration….for...
How often do you get a handwritten letter in the mail? Do you toss it aside like the coupon mailer? OF COURSE NOT!! A smile grows on your face as you see your name and address handwritten on the front of the envelope. You instantly glance to the upper left-hand corner to see who bestowed this gift on you today! You may not even take another step before you slice it open to behold what message awaits you. Like getting a holiday gift!
Every month I receive Wired magazine in my mailbox. I open and feel the slick pages of the magazine on my fingertips. When I find a particularly interesting article, I cut it out, make 2 copies, fold them up, address two envelopes to my grown daughters and send it off. After regularly doing this routine for a couple years, I realized the beautiful irony of this monthly ritual. WIRED magazine. Cutting articles from a magazine about our WIRED world. Making copies on my all-in-one...
Interruption. The word itself makes us crinkle our noses! Interruptions are SO annoying! We get interrupted by a child's yelling at the mall. By a rude driver as we cruise – late for an appointment. By someone talking too loudly on their cellphone at the airport. Just yesterday I was at Barnes & Noble and there was a young couple both on their cell phones. The young man was playing music loud enough for both (and everyone else) to hear. AARGH!
What is an interruption? Webster says to interrupt is an 'occasion when someone or something stops something from happening for a short period.'
Yep, interruptions stop something from happening. We get sidetracked from our agenda. Pulled from our reverie. Our motion stops going forward at the same rate. Off track and distracted. BLECH!
Interruptions, though, are defined from a single reference point: OURS!
In the late 90's I was asked to speak on a Change Management panel. About 60 people packed into the little classroom. During Q&A, someone asked about the Graying of America. The first two panelists gave their answers about investing in pharmaceuticals, boomerang parents and dementia. Basically, the burden old folks put on our society. I was next and I'm sure I gave an incredibly enlightened answer which I can't remember today.
The fourth panelist glanced down at the three of us, looked at the crowd and said, "My fellow panelists have interesting and important perspectives, but I have a different one. We are entering an unprecedented time in our human history when we have more wisdom on the planet than any other time. And we're wasting it."
You could hear a pin drop.
Something in me changed forever in that moment. Ask yourself, do you feel like you are basking in the amazing wisdom that exists IN THIS MOMENT on our...
Do you remember setting the dinner table when you were a kid?
Table Manners was a high priority in our household. Setting the table, just so. Forks, spoons, knives and napkins all in their right place.
Sitting at our dinner table, I can still hear my Dad's remarks bark across the table:
We didn't get dessert until everyone finished the main course. Sometimes I fidgeted at the table as each person finished their meal, just ACHING to jump from the table to continue playing with my Matchbox cars!
Ah, but I found a twist! As the youngest of four children I discovered I could use that rule to exert my power over the entire family. I learned how to eat REAL slow, all three of my siblings glaring at me. Yes, 16 chews on this spoonful of peas is about right. Chew. Chew. ...
The Portal Shows Up...
I was in a modern dance company with my friend Philip who turned professional after college. He was in the national company of Norway and came through my hometown of Minneapolis on his way to participate in a one-week Lakota ceremony in the Black Hills of South Dakota. He asked if I wanted to go with him. And I said, 'Sure! '
It was the first time I'd ever been on Pine Ridge Reservation and the Black Hills. First time I'd ever done a sweat lodge. I mean, it was just magical! At the end of the week, he said, "I'm leaving from here to go to a three-week ceremony. Why don't you come with me?" I told him I couldn't call up my corporate job on Saturday to tell them I'd be gone for another three weeks. I'd have no job. He responded, "And that's a problem? Why?" I explained again how important the job was to me and that it was rare in the corporate environment to take three weeks off. ...
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